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Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 Nuts and Bolts: Understanding Mediation

Where Mediation Came From
The Basics of Mediation
How Mediation Works
What Mediation Resolves
What Mediation Costs
Who Are Mediators?
Important Aspects of Mediation
Long Term Effects
How Mediation Differs from Other Alternative Dispute-Resolution Processes
Types of Mediation
Understanding Limitations
The Mediation Mind-Set

Chapter 2 Giving It a Try: Saying Yes to Mediation

Are You a Good Candidate for Mediation?
Are You Ready to Mediate?
Assessing Your Negotiation Skills
Overcoming Your Fears About Mediation
Talking to Your Spouse About Mediation
How Mediation Will Affect You

Chapter 3 The Perfect Match: Choosing a Mediator

Types of Mediators
How to Find a Mediator
Choosing a Mediation Approach
Mediator Credentials
Mediator Standards
Affording Mediation
Expense Sharing
Your Rights and Responsibilities
Agreement to Mediate
Mediation Methods
Red Flags

Chapter 4 Expert Advice: Other Professionals Involved in Mediation

Attorneys
Therapists
Financial Advisors
Appraisers
Law Guardians or Guardians ad Litem

Chapter 5 On the Starting Blocks: Beginning Mediation

Setting Up a Schedule
Mind-Set
Ground Rules
Immediate Decisions
Other Decisions
Coping With Emotions
Developing a Good Relationship With Your Mediator
Improving Your Communication Skills
Using Mediation to Solve Problems
Agreements
Mediation Checklist
Organizing Your Documents

Chapter 6 Parental Guidance: Choosing a Parenting Plan

What Is a Parenting Plan?
Continuing Your Parenting Relationship
Understanding Legal Terms
How to Make Parenting Plan Decisions
Creating a Schedule
Involving Your Child
Other Decisions
Keeping Parenting Separate
Focusing on Details
Frozen Embryos

Chapter 7 Money Talks: Mediating Alimony and Child Support

Alimony
Health Insurance and Other Expenses
Child Support

Chapter 8 Long Division: Mediating Property Settlements

Getting All the Information
Understanding the Law
Thinking About Property Settlements
Understanding Separate Property
Property Division Laws
Listing Assets and Debts
Thinking About What You Want
Property Settlement Approaches
Dividing Large Assets
Dividing Debts
Dividing Household and Personal Items

Chapter 9 Bumps in the Road: Solving Mediation Problems

Problem: There is a Lack of Communication
Problem: There Has Not Been Complete Financial Disclosure
Problem: You and Your Spouse Can’t Agree on the Facts When It Comes to Money
Problem: You Can’t Seem to Get Anywhere
Problem: Your Overall Agreement Somehow Seems Unbalanced
Problem: Your Spouse is Not Cooperating
Problem: You Decide You Don’t Like Your Mediator
Problem: You Don’t Want to Do the Homework
Problem: You Have No Idea What is Reasonable
Problem: You Encounter a Big Problem Outside of a Mediation Session
Problem: You Reached an Agreement, but One of You Broke It
Problem: Your Spouse Makes Last Minute Changes or Demands
Problem: You Just Feel Uneasy About Mediation
Problem: You Can’t Stand Up for Yourself
Problem: You Just Don’t Know What You Want
Ending Mediation

Chapter 10 Closing the Book: Finalizing Your Divorce

Formally Ending Your Marriage
Reviewing Your Final Written Agreement in Mediation
Consulting with Your Attorney
Court Procedure
Obtaining Closure

Chapter 11 Facing the Future: Dealing with Problems After Divorce

Rules for the Future
Mediating Postdivorce Conflict on Your Own
Mediating After Divorce

Chapter 12 Variations on a Theme: Using Mediation in Other Family Situations

Mediation for the First Time after Divorce
Mediation for Life Partners
Mediation with a Parent Who Was Not Your Partner
Mediation With a New Partner

Appendix A: Sample Agreement to Mediate

Appendix B: Resources

Index

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